Fouziah AhmedDillion WhiteInterpersonal Communication12/31/17Six ConceptsThere are various factors that would influence our interpersonal communication skills. These factors will enable us to communicate effectively with one another and will allow us to exchange information, feelings, and ideas through verbal and non-verbal communication skills. Most likely than not we are simultaneously using these factors and skills in order to communicate with the others everydayEmotional Messages (Emotional Expressions ch. 7) Expressing something may vary from person to person. It may come verbally or nonverbally. I believe that it is channel for effective communication. Without it, some conversations might be confusing. People, like me, tend to express emotions to relay what they truly feel. That way they can communicate to others more clearly. During the life course, we feel joy of being in love and sorrow over someone’s death. All of us feel a strong feeling that accompanies our actions for both very pleasant and very unpleasant or negative feelings (disappointments, disgusts, etc.). Moreover, we experience such reactions less intensely throughout our life’s journey. All these feelings have one thing in common and they represent emotions. As for me, I express my emotions through both verbal and non-verbal expressions. When I’m happy I am very transparent about it. I laugh and I say positive things about the subject matter. I tell my appreciation to everyone if I am happy. Moreover, if I feel disappointed I show it to people what I feel. And I let them know that I am disappointed to something they did. Emotional expressions let me communicate effectively to people especially to my family and friends. That way, we can be transparent with our feelings for each other and I can channel good relationship with themI also use bodily gestures and facial expressions to show what I feel or what I don’t feel. Sometimes, when I’m sad. I don’t usually express it to others so as just not to give negative vibes to others. Instead, I will laugh about it. This is a conflicting idea idea about emotional expressions. One way or another it will let you express what you truly feel and will not let you express what you truly feel. Ironic isn’t it?Perception of self and others (Self-Esteem) Self-esteem is an integral part of a person’s emotional capabilities. It’s a feeling of an individual’s satisfactions towards himself or herself with his or her own capabilities. Generally, self-esteem can be associated to someone’s confidence in presenting himself or herself to others. People with high self-esteem tend to be more successful in life because they tend to communicate confidently with others effectively. It is often seen as a personality trait of an individual. You can easily judge a person if he or she has a high self-esteem or not. Most people with low self-esteem tend to avoid people all of the time and would want to be alone most of the time.I can say that self-esteem is also something that’s what you see in you. How much worth you put in yourself. In order to have self-esteem I believe, it will come from your environment. And how the people that surrounds you act towards you. I am lucky enough that I have been surrounded with lots of amazing people which supports me in everything I do. Self-esteem has a significant role in my life because it taught me on how to become motivated in order to succeed in life. And also in taught me how to interact with others well.Listening in interpersonal Communication ( Active Listening )Active listening is something that you give your full attention to someone who speaks. It involves not only hearing what that person actually says but it also involves full concentration and understanding as to what the other person is talking about. It’s basically one of the most fundamental communication skills as it involves more understanding of another person. Based on what I know know about active listeners. I think an active listener shouldn’t just ‘listen’ what the other is saying but he or she also shows nonverbal movements. For example, a nod which agrees what the other person is talking about or a slight oblique gesture of a head will indicate that you are listening intently. I do these gestures a lot in order to encourage the person talking in front of me to share more on what he or she really feels. It would also help him or her to express more of his or her thoughts and would allow a great avenue of knowing the person. I also do eye contact and smile. Depending on what topic the person in front of me is telling. For example, if that person is sharing something about his or her travel adventures delightly, I smile at him or her just to keep the conversation alive.Culture and Interpersonal Communication (Importances of culture ch.2)As what they say, culture is the lifeblood of a vibrant society. Oftentimes, culture is something that makes a certain place distinct from the others. Also, culture influence a huge impact in the society as a whole. It drives a person’s behavioral uniqueness and beliefs. It reflects on how the people of that certain society acts. It is expressed on how they dress, their art, their traditions, and most of the time the food they eat. For example , the culture I grew in our society in Somalia. I grow up as a Muslim and we have traditions to follow. One of this tradition is the separation of men and women in the society. For example, men and women do not touch each other conventionally due to religious reasons. As a female I can only shake hands with women and men can only shake hands with men. And that’s how our society distinguishes men and women. We also pay high respect to our elders. We even call other people as ‘aunt’ or ‘uncle’ (of course in our language) even if we don’t know them as a sign of respect. Another Example, one of the traditions we practice is that ‘arranged marriage’. But some people will still have their own personal choice as to who they want to marry. Polygamy can be practiced by some men in our society and they can have as many as 4 wives for as long as they can support their needs. Most of the wealthy men are practicing this. But not everyone. Last example is the holiday we celebrate. Holidays are oftentimes associated with religious, social, or seasonal events. We celebrate festivities such as Eid ul Fitr which marks the end of Ramadan. Culture defines what society a person is in. It depicts our traditional beliefs and how we act. Also, culture ties people together which leads to a feeling of oneness among them. Verbal Messages (Ch. 5) You will never know who a person is without communicating or talking to him or her initially. That’s where verbal messages come in. Oftentimes, verbal messages are used as a way of introduction of yourself or of the other person. It is then important that we keep in mind to be careful on what we say and how we say it. Effective verbal messages lead to clear communication and will avoid confusion. With the right words to say and the context of what you are trying to say, we can be able to relay what we really want the others to know. Asking questions is one example of verbal messages. This way, we may be able to obtain information from the other person or start conversation with them.For example, if I say ‘How are you?’ to someone, normally they would reply to you if they are fine or whatsoever. Asking questions also will test our understanding. Like you ask questions for clarification. I also believe that through verbal messages, we can share our ideas with one another which would likely improve our society.Effective interpersonal communication skills will channel clear understanding and will enable us to express what we feel. We may not be aware that we are already doing this daily but rest assured that if we effectively use these interpersonal skills, it will further lead to social betterment.